Recently, I have been reading Brené Brown's "Daring Greatly and the Importance of Vulnerability" (2012). Vulnerability is such an essential feature when it comes to growing, and connecting with people. Simply acknowledging when we feel that we are out on a rope takes us forward:
"From the field of health psychology, studies show that perceived vulnerability, meaning the ability to acknowledge our risks and exposure, greatly increases our chances of adhering to some kind of positive health regimen"..."What makes this really interesting is that the critical issue is not about our actual level of vulnerability, but the level at which we acknowledge our vulnerabilities around a certain illness or threat."
Similarly, in the Bible it says:
"But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." - 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
Dr Brené Brown
If we acknowledge when we feel weak and vulnerable, and rest in that feeling, avoiding blaming others, we will grow stronger. Brown clarifies that vulnerability is not weakness (e.g. asking (when insecure) a friend whose relative passed away if the friend is ok would be viewed as courage and strength, not weakness.) I believe by "weaknesses" Paul means tough situations, in which it is important to be open and delight in your vulnerability.
Being vulnerable is doing things that appear intimidating, opening up to potential hurt believing that that is right thing to do and that you are good enough.
As the Bible quote above states, God's power is made perfect in weakness. If we take the risks, open up and enter the arena, then we will be rewarded. We are sharpened like diamonds in tough situations if we acknowledge when we feel pain and shame, avoid finger-pointing and gain insights.
God's grace is sufficient for us, even when we are vulnerable, so there is nothing to fear.
Additionally, by being self-assured in tough moments and trusting our worth, we help others feel relaxed too.
Next time you feel that you are removing your shield, acknowledge the feeling and declare "I am a Masterpiece, God's child. No weapon formed against me will prosper. I am perfectly fine as I am. Thank you God for making me stronger."